Yesterday I talked to one of my sisters, a high school English teacher, and she said she’d always known what she wanted to do. She’d always wanted to be a teacher, and, even though she had moments where she considered her other loves, she still felt certain about that choice.
I wondered what it would be like to feel that way. Because I never have. I’ve never just known where I wanted to take my life with any kind of certainty. I’ve had goals–I’ve said “I want to be teacher.” “I want to be an editor.” But I don’t think I’ve ever really felt like those choices were real. Like they were actually what I wanted to end up spending my days doing.
Maybe it’s just fear of committing. I was reading the book Fight Club for a class a couple weeks ago and this line stuck out to me, painfully: “she’s confused and afraid to commit to the wrong thing and so she won’t commit to anything.”
I don’t think I’m afraid of commitment in general. I am married, after all, and that’s a commitment I feel certain about. I guess I’m so invested in my own happiness, my own need for self-fulfillment and sense of ability, that I worry I’ll end up in something that’s ultimately not fulfilling or, worse, that makes me feel incapable.
So I’m giving myself one year to find a path. One year to explore everything I’m interested in–photography, web design, writing, and anything else that comes up. And at the end of that one year, I’m going to have a plan. I’m going to know what I want to do. Realistically, I know that what comes out of this year might not be the end-all-be-all of what I want to do. But it will be a start towards doing something meaningful, something that speaks towards my passions and my need to live within a purpose.
I can’t wait.